Monday, April 4, 2011

I dont know what week it is. But I do know it's early April... I think.

Day, ummmm.... 8
Documantary. Transgeneration

Has it affected your relationships in school? Friends left. Other people came closer. Many people were very supportive. Professors were harder to work with. Especially with the name.

[Kind of makes me wonder just how supportive my friends are...]

How did you pay for it? Raised 1/3 himself and a nice guy gave him a loan for the rest of the mesectamy

The best genetal doctor costs 50k

Girlfriend met him before he changed. She was very accepting about the change. "Hybrid set of parts down there right now"
Been together for 2 years. This may. Her dad had a huge freakout. He eventually decided it was ok. Lots of tech for making babies if he decides to have kids.
[I think its great that somebody can be so understanding, maybe there is hope for the world and society]

Parents are divorced. Mom didn't want Ed to mess up her life, but she has come to accept it. Hasn't seen dad in over a decade till spring break. Ed is the only kid that looks like his father.

[One of the millions of kids who are victim to divorced parents. That angers me, divorces. Parents act like it doesn't affect the kids, or maybe they just ignore it. Divorce is a rant for another time.]

In the middle lean to conservative and has some liberal views.
Working for target during the change, was fired from first job for the change "illegal in California" a coworker gave him he'll but management took care of it.

[Fricken People's Republic of Kalifornia, full of libtard hipocrites, yet another rant for another time...]

It was hard to find a job because paperwork wasn't done. Homeless for 18 months, family wouldn't even help. In most of the country he could legally be fired for it. Housing, employers and even doctors can refuse service.

[We reserve the right to refuse service to anyone for any reason.]

The change has helped immensely. He wanted to Change or die. It was that depressing. "rock bottom"

There are still challenges. At the end of the day he has never been happier in his life. The only moment of regret was the morning of the chest surgery, he looked at himself and decided to go for it. Lost all sensation in his nipples. That's a good trade for going shirtless at a beach.

Health concerns or risks throughout the process? Testosterone deteriorates the ovaries, and he has no money to afford removing them or fixing the cancer. Testosterone increases risk of stroke and heart attack. Fat and muscle and even the head changes shape. One transgender person is killed everyday just for being transgender. 200 worldwide, half in USA were murdered for being transgender. Bathrooms are very dangerous. Personal safety is the biggest problem.

[Somebody shood shoot the bastards that kill people for being different. Yeah, it puts me on the same level as them, but damn. People like that should just be shot. Give all the transgender people guns and permission to shoot any bastard that messes with them.]

Male to female has more options on genetal surgeries. It's not easy to create what isn't there. Can have a real small fully functional, or any size you want but it doesn't work. Lots of f 2m don't want to be guinea pigs for new tech.

The response of the male dating a m2f is usually to kill the woman.
['ZOMG I might be gay! I gotta kill the guy I slept with!' --Dumbass, on sexual insecurities--]

Self defense isn't too important, he focuses more on laying low and mediation. Wants to find more passive or peaceful ends.
[Noble, but sometimes words don't count. You can't reason with a moron after all.]

Gender stereotyping. It's important to know that there are differences it's not just acting that way because they want to but because that's how they are wired. There are a lot of things that society tells us are bad.

People see them together. Ed acts like a guy and his girlfriend acts like a girl. They are very normal relationship, "oh my god you're such a guy!"

Best experience so far having done the change? So many, but brothers sticking by through the entire thing was the best. But every time he does a presentation people come out knowing more and being more accepting.
[Kind of ties into the Women in the workplace thing. There are fundamental differences in men and women, making them better suited to different things. I won't start a flame war by saying much more, but, there are differences, and they have an affect on societial norms]

Things to think about, what do you think about transgender kids. There are entire generations of kids growing up confused about what they want to be. What do you have in your own life that you could do that you don't because you're scared?
[I think a lot of kids are confused because somebody effed up. I was really confused about algebra until somebody showed me what's up. If it wasn't for my parents doing (in my opinion) a decent job of raising me, I would probably be a confused young person. But I had guidance. Other kids, they aren't so lucky. What's sad is that a lack of guidance is the norm now-a-days.]
 
Think about what your authentic self means, and what do you have to do to get there. Challenge yourself to look at things differently outside of your own experiences.
[My authentic self... In all honesty I wanna do something important. Not to feel important, but to do something that has meaning to somebody else. I'm not sure what that means, but I'm hoping I can find it by becoming a forensic accountant and catching the bastards that cheat Taxpayers out of their money.]

2 comments:

  1. Some really interesting thoughts here that I kind of wanted to touch on in my blog but I think I would have rambled too long about them. I agree that we face a problem with guidance these days. However, I almost feel that there is both too little and too much. Like, maybe that there's lack of guidance as far as learning to accept what you've been given and make something with it and too much guidance in forcing others to accept us as what we want to be IN SPITE OF what we've been given. That kind of ties into your discussion about men and women in the work place. Yes, there are differences, but seriously... haven't we become advanced enough as people to be able to just flippin' deal with it already? You know?! haha

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  2. You crack me up. You have some valid points. However, I couldn't help but laugh a bit while reading this. You are so honest and a good quality. It is just funny because it is like you are thinking out loud (so-to-speak). Interesting view points!

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